As many of you know, I’ve been doing lots of personal reflection. My focus has been on healing and love. This included taking some extensive time off to spend with Yah, my family, embracing solitude and doing more writing.
In this process, I’ve learned a lot about myself (still learning), got to spend time with my mom, finished two books and moved to Georgia.
Long story short, this break has paid off in more ways than one and I want to share with you something I shared with my Bimonthly email list already. That is, learning to control the energy around you so that you’re more positive, have more energy, are happier and accomplishing more.
To start, I’ve been practicing this by training my mind to be more positive.
Many are already talking about the power of positive thinking, but how does that look in action?
What I’ve come to understand about the power of thought is how much our thoughts contribute to our physical well-being.
We can literally control the energy around us by the quality of our thoughts.
This means that I cannot focus my thoughts on the negative all day, every day and expect to be happy and energetic. If you wake up complaining, go to work complaining, blog your complaints, Tweet and Facebook your complaints, how do you (realistically speaking) expect to have a good day?
This includes limiting what my ears hear and what my eyes see. I can think positively but thinking positive is not enough.
I must also eliminate negative people, places, and things from my life that influences the way that I think.
Why is this important? Because we cannot heal in the same environment that broke us.
I’ve found that watching and listening to what is less negatively stimulating can help me to think less negatively.
An example of this online is following more positive minded people on social media and accounts that encourage and build up instead of tear down. I removed those persons whose energy brought me down and followed those whose energy built me up. This doesn’t mean those I removed are bad people or that I love them less. It means that I love myself enough to protect my energy.
This process of falling back in love with ourselves begins with setting standards for what we will and will not tolerate. This is important because you teach people how to love you based on what you allow to take place.
My break has been more so about mental rejuvenation more than physically. Being tired all the time does not necessarily mean that you’ve had a productive day. It may mean that you are busy but it doesn’t always mean that you’ve been productive. Sometimes it means it is mental rest that you need.
Because the spiritual (mind) and the physical (body) is connected, once we control the way we think we automatically control the way that we feel. Sure, I can get more hours of sleep (and I should) but…
ultimately it is my excitement and passion about the good in my life that will fill me up with positive and empowering energy.
Or, it is my depressed demeanor that will do the opposite.
Your mind can tire you out or fill you up.
For this, I am personally striving to cut down on complaining and worrying by focusing instead on positive thoughts and alternatives. This is not easy, is a daily process, and also means not allowing others to project their negative energy onto me. Giving into other people’s problems or letting people complain to us too much can drain our energy and leave us empty.
Being an ear is great but there’s a difference between being supportive and just letting people dump their issues in our laps.
We are not toilets and shouldn’t allow ourselves to be used.
Do not misunderstand me: Venting can be a good thing. Having someone to talk to is mentally healthy but in the words of Rudy Francisco:
“Some people will take until you have nothing left and then hold a grudge against your hands for being empty.”
Next, we’ll talk about some backlashes to the new and positive you and how to stay encouraged despite them. In a world this cold anything good is bound to be met with opposition. This should not surprise us. In fact, we should prepare for it.