Understand Your Strength

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The first headline for this article was “Knowing Your Strength”. When I thought about it more, however, I was soon reminded that knowing your strength and understanding it are two different things. To know your strength is to have identified what it is. To understand your strength, however, is not only the ability to identify it but to fully comprehend it and to therefore incorporate it into your daily life. To understand your strength is to understand you.

The constant echo of Indie Author advice can be overwhelming. In addition, there are lots of people who take advantage of the new author’s lack of knowledge in its relation to both writing and publishing. (especially publishing) Everyone swears by their method and technique. The only problem is that what works for one person may not necessarily work for the next and it doesn’t take long for new authors to feel doubtful and overwhelmed. While many of you are professional, skilled, and experienced enough to offer valuable insight, what authors must keep in mind is not just what is right, but what is right for them. Look not just at what works, but for what works for you. And not just what works for you, but also where you’re the strongest.

People talk about weaknesses all the time. It is easy to boast in our weaknesses but we cannot be weak without also being strong. Yes, we all have flaws but we also all have strengths. It is when we embrace who we are and tap into what we should offer others according to who we are that we find ourselves performing better, putting out more valuable content, and making a greater impact on the people around us as opposed to “trying” something that may be a good idea but that does not represent who we are.

Strength can be defined as: the quality or state of being strong; strong: able to withstand great force or pressure.

What Happens if I Don’t Understand My Strength?

You become a carbon copy of someone else or a shadow of your real self. A silhouette of who you think you are supposed to be, an outline with no flesh and bone. In short, you become what you think people want to see and attach your actions and thoughts to that image. When that image is destroyed, so are you and you begin to feel just as worthless and as without substance as the image that you’ve made for yourself.

Understanding your strength does not just help you to begin, it helps you also to endure and this we can apply to every aspect of our lives. This message is not just for writers, but for everyone. Take exercise for example. I know that I am capable of doing no less than a 30min. workout but no more than 1 hour. I get up every morning and dedicate at least 30 minutes to my workout but no less. It takes discipline but because I understand my strength, I push myself to do what I know that I am capable of. By looking forward to the 30minutes, it does not seem overwhelming and I am more excited to get up and perform. At the same time, I do not push myself beyond an hour. I understand my strength is not there yet. It will also be taxing and I will be less likely to look forward to doing it or completing it. I will complain more and pretty much whine myself out of doing it.

While Indie Authors will run into many people trying to take advantage of them, people offering everything from products and services that Indies soon discover they don’t really have to pay for, what keeps me grounded—and what I offer to you with the same hope—is understanding the areas where I am the most strong. Having already a firm foundation in those things, it provides a great leverage on which to build. Instead of starting from scratch, pay most attention to those things that speak to who you already are, that connects with your spirit, and that bonds with you mentally in a way that is most you. Don’t just “do you” but know you and understand your strength.

  • What can you do for the rest of your life whether you got paid or not and actually enjoy doing it?
  • What are you the most skilled at? That thing you’ve always been able to do? That spark?
  • What are you the most passionate about?
  • What is your mission in life? What is your purpose?
  • How can you combine your purpose with your career goals in the most genuine way?

Yecheilyah Ysrayl is a Blogger, Book Reviewer, and the Young Adult, Historical Fiction author of Black American Literature and is currently working on her next book series. “Renaissance: The Nora White Story” (Book One) is due for release July 15-16, 2017 at The Tampa Indie Author Book Convention in Tampa Florida. Originally from Chicago, IL, she now resides in Shreveport, LA with her husband where she writes full time. For updates from EC, be sure to follow this blog and to subscribe to her email list HERE.

Writing Symbolism: The Secret Life of Bees

To write subliminally is to operate below the threshold of consciousness. Writing subliminally means to produce a work that gives a message strong enough to influence mental processes or the behavior of an individual in a subtle and non-obvious way. Subliminal writing works well for religious, spiritual, or political writers who want to give important information in a way that is not preachy.

What is Writing Symbolism?

Writing Symbolism is when a message is given to a person’s subconscious or spiritual self to influence positive change in their physical self. Not to be confused with metaphysical psychology, this skill allows the writer to open the eyes of the reader in a way that is easier to understand or to digest. It makes readers think and tends to stay with us past the entertainment factor.

The symbolical writer’s goal is to tap into that spiritual consciousness that exists in all of mankind, but that has been lost or hidden in the world we live in. To create a stepping stone to the consumption of greater spiritual awareness.

This kind of writing, again, is most effective for writers who wish to incorporate spiritual or political concepts in their writing without being preachy.

I caution that writing subliminally is not easy and does not always mean that the messages are positive. If done wrong one can easily confuse readers or influence negative behavior or thoughts.

Let’s look at an example of a movie that incorporates a considerable amount of subliminal messages, some positive and some negative, The Secret Life of Bees.

Warning: This post includes spoilers of the movie. If you have not seen the movie and you don’t want to be told the ending, I recommend bookmarking this post, watching the movie, and then coming back and reading beyond this point.

Sue Monk Kidd

The Secret Life of Bees

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The major theme of this novel is expressed in its title, which comes from a statement made by August:

“Most people don’t have any idea about all the complicated life going on inside a hive. Bees have a secret life we don’t know anything about (148).

In the movie, the viewer learns how most people are not what they seem to be on the surface. People’s lives are usually much more complex and complicated than they appear. The bees represent a community of people working together in a society that is represented by the hive and is symbolic of the Boatwright sisters and their community.

Mothers

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  • Lily is driven by her need to know about her mother so that she may learn more about herself. In seeking her mother, Lily finds mother substitutes. Rosaline, August, and the other women step into Lily’s life and provide the mothering that she needs so desperately.

 

  • The Black Madonna / Virgin Mary demonstrates each woman’s need to be mothered. The women’s devotion to the Mother shows the power and importance of a mother in the life of a woman.

 

  • On another level, the Black Madonna / Virgin Mary is also symbolic of The Sacred Dark Feminine, which is highly promoted by the movie. The women do not just rely on the idol for mothering, but they worship her. Queen Latifah, who plays August, also symbolizes The Black Madonna / Sacred Feminine. Latifah is symbolically the physical manifestation of the Sacred Feminine idol.

This is the perfect example of subliminal writing. The author doesn’t say this outright, but it can be inferred by Latifah’s leadership and her sisters’ admiration of her. The women depend on her (August), for guidance and motherhood. In one scene, she raises her arm in a tight fist and mimics the statue of the Black Madonna.

The Three Holy Women

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The days of the week and the months of the year are named after Gods and Goddesses. (Thursday = Thors Day). The intention of giving the Boatwright sisters names that are months of the year is because the three holy women are symbolic of three Goddesses. There is also a trinity overtone here.

  1. The Childlike May
  2. The Sensuous and Artistic June
  3. The Wise and Kind August

The fourth sister (May’s twin who died and doesn’t appear in the film) was named April.

Rosaleen

Rosaleen (Hudson) represents three symbols I could identify, but possibly more. While Jennifer Hudson seems the newbie on set– Dreamgirls (2006) being her first movie–within her role comprise several images. She is a mother figure, big sister figure, and more but first  she is “The Mammy Crone.”

“The Mammy Crone” is a caricature of the black woman that grew out of slavery. Enslaved black women saw their children sold or traded but they were required to raise white children. Enslaved black women fed white babies from their breast (called “Wet Nurses”) and treated them as if they had come from their loins. These black women were not the mothers of these children but they cared for them as if they were so they became known as “Mammies” instead of Mothers. This term, “Mammy,” was not an endearing one, though. This term was a derogatory one, a stereotype:

From slavery through the Jim Crow era, the mammy image served the political, social, and economic interests of mainstream white America. During slavery, the mammy caricature was posited as proof that blacks — in this case, black women — were contented, even happy, as slaves. Her wide grin, hearty laughter, and loyal servitude were offered as evidence of the supposed humanity of the institution of slavery.

This was the mammy caricature, and, like all caricatures, it contained a little truth surrounded by a larger lie. The caricature portrayed an obese, coarse, maternal figure. She had great love for her white “family,” but often treated her own family with disdain. Although she had children, sometimes many, she was completely desexualized. She “belonged” to the white family, though it was rarely stated.

The Mammy was a stereotype of the enslaved black girl grown old. She is elderly, fat, cheerful, and devoted to raising “Massa’s” children. She is often depicted as a heavy-set dark-skinned girl wearing a head-wrap that looks like a rag and caring for white youth.

But what is a Crone?

“In folklore, a ‘crone is an old woman who may be disagreeable, malicious, or sinister in manner, often with magical or supernatural associations that can make her either helpful or obstructing. The Crone is also an archetypal figure, a Wise Woman. As a character type, the crone shares characteristics with the hag.”

– Wikipedia

A Mammy Crone is a stereotypical enslaved black woman who cares for the affairs of white youth using her wisdom and supernatural instincts and abilities. She is like a fairy godmother but in a derogatory kind of way.

A powerful symbol in this movie is Rosaleen’s elevation from Mammy Crone in the beginning to Goddess at the end. This is seen by the changing of her name from Rosaleen to July. She has become like one of them.

Race

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Of course, we cannot forget the antagonistic issue of race in the 1960’s south that is interwoven into the everyday relations between individuals in this movie. The plot demonstrates two encounters between whites and blacks in which the black person is treated unjustly. Rosaleen, for example, is sent to jail for defending herself and Zach goes to jail for not admitting which of his friends broke a bottle on a white man’s nose.

On another level, Lily must personally navigate the delicacy of the racial difference between herself and the African-Americans she comes to love in Tiburon. White people criticize Lily for living with the black women, who treat her better than anyone ever has. Lily develops romantic feelings for Zach, who tells her that he could get killed for even looking at a white girl. Finally, for the first time, Lily experiences what it is like to be judged based solely on her skin color when June complains to August that she does not want Lily in the house because she is white. I love how Kidd did this, showing the intimacy of Lily’s education on race by literally immersing her into the shoes of the black women she comes to love.

Death Gives Way to Life

Throughout the movie, there is the theme of death giving way to life. It is sometimes good, but it is also sometimes bad. In the very beginning of the movie Lily tells us:

“People who think dying is the worst thing don’t know a thing about life.”

Here, we see how Lily’s life has been profoundly affected by her mother’s death. This statement suggests that living with someone else’s death can be more painful than dying. In this case, Deborah’s death has given way to Lily’s miserable life.

However, death can also be a positive force in the lives of the living that remain. Following May’s death August tells Lily:

“Putting black cloths on the hives is for us. I do it to remind us that life gives way into death, and then death turns around and gives way into life.”

The promotion of death as giving way to life is seen twice (or maybe more) in this movie as a positive force. The first instance is the way that May’s death propels June to marry Neil, thus establishing their new life together. The second time is when Lily finally reconciles with her mother’s death and is set free to truly begin her own life. But on a deeper level, the movie promotes the idea that life can also kill.

May kills herself because life is too much for her to bear. When Deborah learns she is pregnant with Lily she decides to marry T.Ray. Lily’s life leads to Deborah’s symbolic death on the peach farm, where she has a nervous breakdown because she cannot bear to live there. This new life (Lily) also leads to Deborah’s literal death when Lily accidentally drops the gun and Deborah is hit with a bullet.

Symbolic Writing is a challenge, but if done right is a powerful way to reach readers with a message. One thing to remember is that everything, like any good book, must connect. The Secret Life of Bees was well written with symbolism because not only did almost everything represent something deeper the author wanted you to see but it all connected and made sense. From the beginning of the movie to its end “The Secret Life of Bees,” is personified.

Even May’s death is representative of the secret life of bees. She is kind, smiling, and joyful. She cooks for everyone and is there for you. Only those who truly know her know how depressed she is. Only they can see her secret life with the letters and the wailing wall and upon her death, understand that everything is not always as it seems.

In her place is Rosaleen, the missing piece. Where there was once May, June, and August. There is now June, July, and August and yet again, death gives way to life in perfect order.

Murder She Wrote

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No, it wasn’t suicide
the freedom in her chest
the genuine in her throat
and the explosion of awareness
she didn’t try to hide
packing a strap
never hesitating to open fire
leaving trails of Earthquakes lingering at your side
pen to paper
creating a new world of gun smoke
white dope
and fienes who didn’t mind dropping the dime
even if sudden truth made em choke
you see she killed ignorance with her words
dropping bombs
and cracking open minds
that refused to otherwise
oblige
she ate books with the speed of speech
and digested their integrity for breakfast each morning
but she wasn’t a good girl
or rather
a good woman
for she would spit tsunamis later that night
a raging storm
were her words when she blessed the mic
a collection of seas
to wash away the broken
and a ringing silence afterwards
like screaming death was her audience
jaws scattering somewhere across the floor
tongues unfolded
like red carpets
and eyes found a home in her face
it was clear
she’d destroyed the room
overturned tables
and left bodies in a state of ruin
for they all sat unmoved
like statues
feared her voice like blank pages
and empty books
silence dragging their minds to ponder
a new birth place for their thoughts
and no this wasn’t suicide
for she killed ignorance with her words
and the detectives concluded that yes
indeed
it was murder she wrote

Dreaming

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They tell you to keep dreaming, but I am on a mission to stop the flow of dreams. To stumbling block my way through imagination, and the influence of certain memory. You see, there’s a secret to all these dreams. A hushed lullaby of awareness kept sacred within the chambers of understanding. A secret left deserted amidst the open square of objectives and goals and missions, and all this talk of entrepreneurship. It is easy to get lost here. To be an off scale balance of myth and reality. A sleep walking fantasy of coming and going wrapped up in fragmented steps and plans. Dreamers strive to illustrate the future with their talents, and to breathe life into the stillness of pictures that once belonged in books. Their striving is admirable to say the least since I too have goals I wish to accomplish. Yet while accomplishing them I’d hope to do so while awake; in the depth and breadth of consciousness. To never be put into a situation where I lose track of myself for the sake of adding humanity to fairy tales. The greatest achievement means nothing to the person who has lost track of themselves, and have opted to be boxed in, and to be mentally limited. It’s OK to have goals, but be not the sacrificial lamb to your greatest dreams. Do not do away with goal and objective, but be careful under the concept of dreaming, since to dream, you have to first be asleep.