Category: General Topics

4 Things to Remember When it Works for Them (But Not For You)

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What happens when you do something that worked for others but does not work for you? Sometimes a group of people can do the same things, but only one or a few will get the results they are looking for. There are many reasons why but there are really just four core reasons why:

  • It’s Not for You

What’s for you is for you and only you. Perhaps you weren’t built to fit those shoes and they weren’t built to fit yours. You’ve got your own purpose to fulfill. Of all the advice out there, no one can give you purpose. That thing gotta come from within. Surely others can show us the door, but we gotta walk through it. OK, so they did it that way, now tell me, what can you offer that is different? That’s what matters.

  • Who Wants It More?

The people who actually see results is usually the people whose actions show that they want it more. This person or persons will endure failure, persists during trial, and stay motivated even when things are slow. Bottom line, these are the 3% of the people who didn’t quit.

  • Who is Capable of Handling it, Once They Get It?

Next, the person or people who see results is also the person or people who understand the level of responsibility that comes with great authority. The more trustworthy you are, the more authority you have and the greater the responsibility it will require to carry it out. So, you wanna grow? Well, you gotta be willing to adjust to a bigger pot. With great authority comes greater responsibility.

  • Not About You

Finally, the person who starts to see results is usually the person who understands that the key to succeeding at anything is that its more about the people and less about themselves. It’s about being of service and providing value. The secret is that it’s not about you, it’s about the people. Support the people and the people will support you. Think less about what others can do for you  and more about what you can do for others.

Embracing Change

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The trees have sealed the spots where the leaves are attached, not allowing fluids to flow in and out of them, which change color and fall off.  The falling of the leaves does more than mark the season, it also helps the tree survive the cold, dry air of winter. Humans are also preparing for the dropping temperatures of the colder months. Where fire places are lit, winter blankets make their resurrection and even men’s hearts grow cold with the heightened stress and violence that occur during the holidays. As November eases its way in and we prepare to wrap up another year, my thoughts settle upon change.

It’s not always easy to embrace change. It is something that happens so frequently in our lives and yet remains something new; moving in and out of our day with the same glide as oil to a pan. Starting with a puddle and then auctioning pieces of itself off into different directions. This is not easy for us to do; to forgo tradition for a road less traveled by. To be reborn in a way that blows our minds and challenges us to become different. To think and to act in a way that is new; to adapt to a foreign idea or practice.

Those crippling brown leaves, the ones that have hardened across our front yards, begging to be burned or thrown into the trash are not pleasant to see. But if the tree did not embrace the change coming upon it, sealing the spots where the leaves grow, it would die. When spring brings warm air and fresh water, the tree will sprout new leaves and start growing again.

Like the unmovable tree, standing so bold against the bite of winter, and naked with vulnerability, I challenge you to change your routine for the sake of incorporating a new experience into your daily lives. Mine will be getting back into my workout routine, and cutting back on snacks.

While change can be difficult, it comes with a kind of strength that can only be experienced to define, and has the potential to open us up to endless possibilities, causing our minds to stretch beyond the limit. Embracing change, in short, frees us from the captivity of routine, and the stagnancy of ritual.

Value Yourself, Value Your Time

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I don’t know who wrote this but I had to share it. It’s so true. We only work and spend our time according to how we see ourselves. Meaning that if we don’t think we are worthy then we are not going to value our time and therefore not do anything with it. Taking time to spend alone and reflect is not something that is optional for me. I believe that mental health is just as imperative as physical health but is highly underrated. Rarely do we consider mental clarity or offer exercises to help to maintain that kind of balance in our lives. Mental stability is just as important to me as physical health. Taking care of myself helps me to have the endurance to take care of others. Prayer, meditation, and just overall quite time gives me a chance to listen to my own thoughts, cultivate new writing ideas and examine where I am right now in my life, my goals, and those things that need to be improved. It helps me to be of service to my husband and to my community. The same way that reading and studying helps to exercise my brain, quite time and reflection help to clear my mind and organize my thoughts. For us to truly value our time I believe what the quotes says, we must first value ourselves. We have to know our worth in order to know what we’re worth. Only when we believe that we are truly worth it, will we have what it takes to truly appreciate these moments that too soon become memories.

Ice Breaker Challenge – Introduce Yourself!

Ice Breaker Challenge

I saw this on Facebook and thought it would be a great way for bloggers to actually get to know each other! We know there are fakes out here so I’m calling everyone out. Put your pen where the truth is. Here’s your chance to verify your identity. Let’s break the ice.

Answer the following questions honestly on your own blog. Link back to this blog so we can see everyone’s post. Use the hashtag #Icebreaker. You can also leave a link to your blog in the comments if you want! This will be my last post until the weekend. Let’s take this time to get to know each other. You’re not doing anything at work anyway. Besides, it’s lunchtime. I’ll go first.

(Note. Yes, you can number your questions. I had to edit mine out due to technical difficulties in my WordPress dashboard).

Are you named after someone? Yes, middle name after my grandmother Marguerite.

When is the last time you cried? Two days ago.

Do you like your handwriting? No, only in notebooks.

What is your favorite lunch meat? Turkey, thinly sliced.

How many kids do you have? Two with my husband, none biologically.

If you were another person, would you be friends with you? Sure lol.

Do you use sarcasm? Yea. Sorry.

Do you still have your tonsils? These questions are weird but yes.

Would you bungee jump? No. Not. Ever.

What is your favorite cereal? Captain Crunch.

Do you untie your shoes when you take them off? No. My shoe strings are usually tucked in.

Do you think you are strong? I have to be.

What is your favorite ice cream? Every kind. It just has to be ice cream period.

What is the first thing you notice about people? Eyes.

Red or pink?  Neither. Browns, Greens, Beiges. Earth tones.

What is the least favorite thing you like about yourself? Too trusting, take things too personal.

What color pants and shoes are you wearing right now? Blue jeans, black house shoes

What was the last thing you ate? Chicken Tacos

What are you listening to right now?  My thoughts.

If you were a crayon, what color would you be? Brown or Burnt Orange

What are your favorite smells? Fresh Linen and Fruity scented candles, my husband’s cologne.

Who was the last person you spoke to on the phone? Hubby 😍😍

Favorite sport to watch? Track & Field, Basketball

Real hair color? Brown

Eye color? Brown

Do you wear contacts? No.

Favorite food to eat? Pasta Bruschetta.

Scary movies or happy endings? Both. (What’s a scary movie?)

Last movie you watched? Look Who’s Talking Too 😂 lol.

What color shirt are you wearing? Green

Summer or winter? Summer

Hugs or kisses? Both.

What book are you reading? House of The Hanging Jade by  Amy Reade

What is on your mousepad? I don’t know. Its in the other room.

What is the last TV program you watched? Queen Sugar.

What is the best sound? Birds in the morning, and crickets and grasshoppers in the country at night.

Rolling Stones or The Beatles? Neither. Temptations.

What is the farthest you have traveled? Jamaica.

Do you have a special talent? Yes.

Where were you born? Chicago

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Copy, and paste these questions in your own blog and do it yourself! Don’t forget to use #Icebreaker and link back so we can see. ☺️

Welcome!

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