I am just getting around to reading Tabitha Brown’s Feeding the Soul, and it is doing just that for me this afternoon.
Lately, I have realized I don’t have much help with all I have going on. People think I have this great big team behind me. Nope. Most of the things I do, I do alone.
This is not a complaint but an assessment of the truth: I need more help but can’t afford to outsource everything.
And if I am being completely honest, I do not always know how to articulate what I need.
This realization had me feeling a bit discouraged.
Queue Tabitha, who may as well be sitting in this office with me. Let’s imagine she’s sitting in the corner chair across from my desk. She’s wearing that pretty blouse from the front cover, with the big Afro and a smile brighter than the sun. She sees my shoulders slump.
T: “Well hello there, you alright?”
E: “Yea, I’m okay,” I respond mentally.
T: “Lean in, baby. Are you leaning?”*
E: (Laughs) “Yes.”
T: “I can sense you not alright, and that’s okay cause that’s your business. But listen real quick, everyone can’t go.”
E: “Huh?”
T: “I said everyone can’t go.”
E: “Okayyy.”
T: “Once you understand that there are some things you’re going to have to do on your own, make peace with that. Don’t allow it to rip you up inside.”*
E: “Aww, thank you. I really needed to hear that!”
T: “Very good. Because if you sit around waiting on somebody to save you, help you, partner with you, walk with you, or hold your hand, you just might miss the blessing that could have only come by the changes and chances that you took while leaping into your destiny.”*
*From Feeding the Soul (Because It’s My Business): Finding Our Way to Joy, Love, and Freedom by Tabitha Brown, page 37.
I love that this advice forces us to reconsider our previous assumptions. Typically, when we hear “everybody can’t go with you,” we interpret this to mean everyone can’t level up with us.
That may be our ego talking. “Everybody can’t go where I’m going.” Just loud and wrong.
Consider a different point of view: Everybody can’t go can also mean everybody can’t go with you to experience the challenges that come with your calling. Everybody isn’t meant to endure the trials you are taking on because they have a different purpose.
Moral.
Some things are meant for you to complete on your own in order to develop and strengthen something inside of you. Your husband/wife, children, friends, or relatives are unrelated to this. Future you will need to have the strength to handle whatever it is you are intended to do. Yet in order for that to happen, you need to enhance this version of yourself for that task.
Today’s Lesson: This is your soulwork, and no one else’s. Get comfortable with the uncomfortable reality that everyone can’t go.
Now, pardon me while I get back to enjoying my rest day. Did this advice make you feel better too? Very good!
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