4 Things to Remember When it Works for Them (But Not For You)


What happens when you do something that worked for others but does not work for you? Sometimes a group of people can do the same things, but only one or a few will get the results they are looking for. There are many reasons why but there are really just four core reasons why:

  • It’s Not for You

What’s for you is for you and only you. Perhaps you weren’t built to fit those shoes and they weren’t built to fit yours. You’ve got your own purpose to fulfill. Of all the advice out there, no one can give you purpose. That thing gotta come from within. Surely others can show us the door, but we gotta walk through it. OK, so they did it that way, now tell me, what can you offer that is different? That’s what matters.

  • Who Wants It More?

The people who actually see results is usually the people whose actions show that they want it more. This person or persons will endure failure, persists during trial, and stay motivated even when things are slow. Bottom line, these are the 3% of the people who didn’t quit.

  • Who is Capable of Handling it, Once They Get It?

Next, the person or people who see results is also the person or people who understand the level of responsibility that comes with great authority. The more trustworthy you are, the more authority you have and the greater the responsibility it will require to carry it out. So, you wanna grow? Well, you gotta be willing to adjust to a bigger pot. With great authority comes greater responsibility.

  • Not About You

Finally, the person who starts to see results is usually the person who understands that the key to succeeding at anything is that its more about the people and less about themselves. It’s about being of service and providing value. The secret is that it’s not about you, it’s about the people. Support the people and the people will support you. Think less about what others can do for you  and more about what you can do for others.

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10 thoughts on “4 Things to Remember When it Works for Them (But Not For You)”

  1. I think this is true for writers. We all think and operate differently, so our processes are all different, depending on our likes, dislikes, methods of work, etc. If you find something that isn’t for you, try to figure out if you can modify it to better suit your needs.

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  2. This was a good post, and something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. I feel like my writing isn’t good. So many people I know are doing better than me, it makes me question maybe I shouldn’t be a writer.

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    1. We all have these moments of self-doubt (I know I have!)

      But the key is to keep going. Keep writing and DO NOT stop.

      There’s much advice out there but here’s the secret: It won’t work!
      Well, not as is.

      It works if you make it your own. If you find something, or modify something, already in line with your personal integrity, that’s what works.

      Please keep writing and remember that no one will believe in you until YOU believe in you. Persistence is key. ❤

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        1. You gotta dig deeper. Notice EVERY progression, even the small ones. These small victories will help you to get through.

          What is success without failure? What is failure? Are you really a failure or do you just perceive yourself to be?

          Compared to someone whose been where we wanna go, we can all be classified as failures in that we haven’t made it there. The question is, are we really?


            1. I understand Akaluv.
              I’ve been at this ‘gig’ for 35+ years and am finally getting into my stride.
              Edison (of light bulb fame) apparently said ‘I’ve not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work’
              Just keep on keeping on.
              Best wishes

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  3. ‘Not About You’ has struck a particular chord.
    I’ve finally worked out (after all these years) that when writing, it is sort of important to think from time to time. ‘Yes, but is this going to work for The Reader?’.

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