Loss of Identity
– A woman who chooses to stay home either to raise children or not is not suffering from an identity crisis. She has not lost sight of who she is as a person and what she wants just because she chooses not to break the glass ceiling. Staying home does not mean watching TV all day and spending eight hours in the kitchen. Instead, it gives women a chance to be creative and to pursue dreams they probably never thought possible. With time on their hands and the financial support of their men, these women go out into the community to volunteer and get involved in all sorts of creativity. They are proud to spend all day with their children or their husband if they have no children and to prepare healthy meals for their families. These are the women who do not stuff small mouths with junk food and candy. They take their time purchasing only the choicest goods, they cook and they clean. These undervalued skills contribute largely to the physical, spiritual, and psychological development of the youth. Children who are fed well and loved well can better focus at school among other things. In short, these women are not bored just because they choose the one career underappreciated the most in this society: Family.
Submission = Abuse
- The image at the start of this post is very disturbing to me. Even more disturbing is that we believe this is what submission is because the Ads, TV commercials, and Hollywood movies told us so. A woman who submits to her man is not being abused by him. Abuse can happen in any relationship at any time, it has nothing to do with submission itself. Because abuse can happen to anyone at anytime it is critical that women understand their value and their worth before trying to find it in a man. You are what you attract and no one, man or woman, who has not learned to love themselves first has any business trying to love anyone else. That said, a wife who submits to a husband simply respects him and his decisions within the family structure as head of her household. It does not mean that the woman is weak or is in any way less capable of leading. Submission simply means to be in agreement because no family can thrive if the house is divided. All parties must be on one accord and as a man’s natural position is to lead, he handles this role well. By nature women are attracted to men in who they see strength. While it is natural for women to get caught up in the everyday life of children and work her love and attention to the man should not cease. I like to call this “Keeping the Spark”. A man who gets this kind of attention from his woman gives it right back (that is if he is a man) and is less likely to seek it elsewhere. Otherwise, it will be difficult for that man to thrive in a home in which his own woman doubts him. The contented face of a happy man has no equal. By happy I am not referring to sex. Though important, sex is not marriage but a part of it. A man provides more than sex and money but leadership, guidance, and discipline for our children. In the 1960s Black marriages were at its best. Black men accepted their roles as natural leaders and black women followed. We stood by them, we supported them, and our homes thrived.
She is Unhappy
- The problem here is that we have devalued the role of the wife and mother; as if there is a position higher than this. Being a stay-at-home wife or mother is a prestigious position, one that no Hollywood job or high-class position will ever be able to fulfill. Not all women are made to fit this role nor do all women want to and that’s their business. But for those who do, they are not unhappy and depressed just because they choose to treat their men like Kings and make leaders of their children. More wives would keep their husbands if they understood one simple truth: treat him as if he is the most important man in all the world. As far as you are concerned, this man can rule the world with you by his side. There is no man like your man. Is this not how you want to feel? Like you’re the one woman who can rule the world? That you are queen? Why would he want anything different than to be lavished by the woman he loves? When a man feels like he can conquer the world, he will.
Amen! Perfectly said. Thanks for sharing! ☺
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Thank YOU and you’re most welcome.
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Who coined the term “housewife” anyway? A woman doesn’t marry a house, nor is she sentenced to life there. *Dramatic eye roll*
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*Pumps fist* Right?? Lol. Say that.
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😉
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Reblogged this on Dream Big, Dream Often.
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Thanks for sharing ☺👍.
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My pleasure!
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I am.a full time mom and a housewife…and i am not bothered at all..
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Excellent 💕
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While I found the post incredibly well written, I couldn’t possibly disagree more with most aspects of this. I would by no means consider myself a feminist, but I believe having this kind of mindset is exactly the type of thinking that has considerably delayed the advancement of womens equality. I hope you don’t find this comment to be hostile or argumentative. That’s not my intention. I just felt the need to state the difference of opinion.
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Everyone is entitled to their opinion. In fact, I am more surprised there weren’t disagreements sooner and I thank you for taking the time to leave a comment on the table. That said, of course, I disagree with you and your referral to my “mindset” is exactly my point. Women who embrace submission are often looked down upon as compared to women who do not. Whether proclaimed feminists or not, this is a feminine society where women rule and men do not get their just due and anyone who says anything about it can rest assured to be attacked. I believe women are strong and capable of leadership. In fact, she can be a lot of things but she cannot be a man.
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Women can be a lot of things but she can’t be a man …well said
Great article😊
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Thank you and thanks for leaving a comment on the table.
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I loved this. I’m a housewife and I’m extremely happy. I also submit to my husband in love. Being a housewife gives me the time and financial support to pursue my dreams, and I have no desire to be a feminist or a career woman.
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I heard that. Good to hear.
You’ve also brought up a point that I didn’t touch on in this post but that also needs more attention as it is another aspect of the miseducation of what it means to submit. That point is submission as it relates to the working woman. I believe a woman’s submission is not dependent on where she is of service in that she can be a housewife or a career woman and still submit to the authority of her man. This is because, contrary to popular belief, submission is not religious or restricted to the house. It is all encompassing. In this instance, if she is a career woman, she should understand that it’s not just her money or her house but that she is helping to contribute to the whole of the family structure. Being a boss out there doesn’t mean we have to bring that home. Thanks for leaving a comment on the table and the link to your blog!
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I agree. I’m certainly not trying to say a career woman can’t submit to her husband or that being a career woman means you can’t submit. I’m sure there are career women who do submit do their husbands, just as there are some stay at home mothers and wives who do not. But in general it seems career women favor egalitarian marriages rather than complimentarian.
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True, and I understand what you were saying, I just wanted to touch on that while I was thinking about it.
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I have to admit I’m REALLY digging those shoes in that first image. I sort of want them now.
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Lol
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Oh no, now I feel even more so a failing housewife! I just blogged how I would rather have a job but now I feel like I even fail at my one and only job as being a “housewife” 😑
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That doesn’t make you a failure. Where a woman is of service does not define her. Working inside the home does not necessarily mean a woman is submissive and working outside the home does not mean she is not. That’s another misconception. The difference is in her perception. If a woman thinks having a degree and a job mean she don’t need a man, that’s a problem. But if she works for the benefit of her family as a unit, that what she brings to the table is not just hers, then that’s cool.
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That was awesome …im looking for some inspiration and motivation…I think i just found it!
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Awesome. Glad you found it useful. 💞
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I used to be a workaholic corporate career woman but decided to talk a full switch – I am now a housewife, joyful and contented. Glad you wrote about this!
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Awesome ☺
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